Let’s face it — when it comes to sex, many of us are a hybrid of curious, confused and at times just plain misinformed. Questions such as “Sex कब करना चाहिए?” or “कितनी बार करना चाहिए?” circulate so much that virtually no one has the guts to ask them out loud. Why? Well, it’s because in our culture, sex talk is generally the Voldemort of all talks–you know, that “which must not be named.”
But the reality is, sex isn’t all fun and games between the sheets — it’s also a crucial aspect of our mental health, relationships and even family life. As Delhi’s Dr Ashok Gupta of real Ashok Clinic, Pitampura (yep the one by Pillar No. 365—don’t believe any fake rumours) says:
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Sex is natural, not dirty. It’s gorgeous when it is done with love, affection and honesty.
So, let’s unpack some of the big myths, facts and real advice that Dr. Gupta served fresh — with a little smattering of human humor.
Why Do People Have Sex? The Big Picture
At the root, I see sex having two main functions:
- Link: To create a sense of closeness between partners. Couples who share good sex tend to feel closer, happier and more connected.
- Creation: Yep, babies! Studies show that 7–8 couples in 10 have sex less than once a week and become pregnant within months.
In other words, if a married couple has been attempting to conceive for 6 months without success, it’s wise to see a doctor — first give the husband a once-over, then the wife. Fertility is teamwork, after all.
There Is No ‘Best Time’ to Have Sex. Or Is There?
Sex is generally seen as a night activity. Truth bomb: it does not have to be. Dr. Gupta notes that the best time may be in fact the morning, when your stomach is empty and you are fully rested without distractions to your mind.
He suggests:
- Avoid sex right after meals. Wait at least 2–3 hours.
- If you’re super tired, sick or drunk, don’t try.
- If you’re tired, hungry, in pain — forget it. That’s the equivalent of trying to do a marathon in slippers. Disaster guaranteed.
How Much Sex Is Right for You?
This is the million-dollar question. And the answer? It depends.
Some couples feel satisfied at one time a day. Others prefer every 4–5 days. A couple may even prefer several times a day. It’s not a competition, people! It comes down to finding a rhythm that suits both partners.
Dr. Gupta puts it straight:
If you’re doing it once a day, you fall within the normal range.
If you’re spreading it out every few days, also normal.
What’s not normal? Pushing yourself when your body is screaming “bhai, ab bas karo.”
The Danger of Artificial Desire
Here’s where things get tricky. A lot of people require blue films, erotic books and porn to get stirred. While that may give you a quick mood lift, Dr. Gupta cautions it often results in:
Rushed, unsatisfying sex.
Rapid release (yes, the whole “2-minute noodles” thing).
A feeling of incompleteness.
Authentic desire, based on love, comfort and organic attraction always feels better than “copy-paste” movie scenes. Just remember, porn stars are actors, not health educators.
Sex That Can Actually Hurt You
Sex is generally healthy and safe. But there are at least a few red flags that medical help is necessary:
If you all the time lose erection very quickly.
If sex makes you suffer from back pain, headaches or dizziness.
If your body is unnaturally weak after the act.
Overlooking that could wreck not only your health, but also your relationship. Indeed, according to Dr. Gupta, too many divorces take place when all they have to do is get some help for their bedroom struggles.
Breaking the Shame Barrier
The taboo, in India, is one of the biggest problems. Couples keep their struggles to themselves, shy away from doctors and sometimes endure in silence. Dr. Gupta stresses:
Don’t act as if sex is dirty or shameful. It’s as common as eating or sleeping.
But if something seems off, speak with a physician (such as your family doctor or gynecologist) or sex educator. Even if the truth hurts, trying to hide it only makes the problem worse.
DrAshok Gupta – The Sex Doctor of Pitampura
For those who are questioning whether he’s real — yes, he’s real and still practicing. Disregard the rumours that he’s in Chandni Chowk or Faridabad. The man sits in Ashok Clinic, close to Pitampura Metro Station, Delhi, Pillar No. 365.
(Telephonic consultation is available anytime except Sundays.)
Telephone advice: Free, between 10 a.m. to 5 p.m.
Contact numbers: 9868781011 / 981092140.
With more than 50+ years of experience, he’s is one of the most reliable names in this domain.
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Final Thoughts
It is called making love for a reason: sex is about more than pleasure; it’s about connection, health, and happiness in a marriage. Forget the myths we’ve all grown up hearing such as, “zyada sex se weakness ho jaati hai” or “raat ko hi karna chahiye.” The truth is simpler:
You do it at your comfort level.
When it feels good for both partners, do it.
Don’t measure yourself against anyone else (especially what you see in the movies).
And when it comes to problems, seek help. Don’t allow minor misunderstandings to escalate into major problems that damage the relationship.
Ultimately, sex is just another piece of life and it thrives in the presence of love, honesty and balance. Or, as Dr. Gupta so poetically says:
“Sex isn’t dirty, sex is beautiful. Treat it with respect.”
So the next time you’re in a tizz over matters of the boudoir, remember: You are not alone. And hey, you already have sociallykeeda.com to help you navigate the real talk.
